Good Stress

Our daughter's boyfriend proposed to her last week and now she is engaged. My husband and I are beyond thrilled.

We are also really goofy. Last night my husband walked around the entire house looking for a bottle top that ended up being in his hand the whole time. This is my usually grounded-like-a-rock husband.

This morning in my Bikram Yoga class I caught myself in the the wrong posture, totally out of sync with the rest of the class because my mind had drifted to plans for a family party we'll be hosting in a few weeks.

I keep having to pull my breath down out of my upper chest into my belly. My daily Vimala Alphabet practice is showing some weird patterns that I have to stop and fix as I write.

It occurs to me that this wonderful development in our lives has activated the ancient fight-or-flight response that's usually associated with bad things, not good ones. This good-stress factor kind of sneaked up on me, but now that I'm aware of it, I am doing my best to address it the same way as I teach my anxious clients to address theirs:

1. Take a deep, deep breath! Make sure I'm breathing in through my nose every time and doing my best to draw the breath all the way down into my belly.

2. Pay attention to grounding myself. I like to imagine roots coming down through the soles of my feet and into the earth.

3. Go to bed earlier -- in case my brain wakes up at 3 am (as it has done a few times already) and decides to walk me through all the details it thinks I need to be aware of right then and there.

4. Pay attention to the direction of my thoughts. What is it about wedding plans that generate catastrophic thinking?

5. Write everything down. At least one comic incident illustrated quite clearly that our minds cannot be trusted to hold new information.

6. Remember to laugh!

7. As much as possible, keep JOY as the launching pad for any and all planning. It's all too easy to get sucked into should's that rob me of my perspective, my energy and my sense of self.

If you have anything to add to my list, please comment. I plan to post updates as we go through the days counting down to October 6, 2012. What fun!

Tied Up In Knots

Most of my clients just don't get the benefit of the handwriting work I do. They balk at the idea of making changes to their handwriting and dismiss the transformational value of a daily handwriting practice.

I'd been working with "Hermine" for several months. We had a few intense sessions in my office, and then, because of the distance between us, we followed-up with weekly TAT sessions over the phone. Once in a while, in response to the TAT sessions, I recorded a new hypnotherapy CD for her and mailed it.

For the past four years, Hermine has dealt with a phobia that's manifesting as a physical condition. As with most phobias, this one is anxiety-based and the result of a hyper-vigilant response to a perceived danger.

For a number of reasons (that now leave me scratching my head) I did not initially ask for a handwriting sample from Hermine. As our phone work was not yielding the dramatic results I would have expected given the consistency of the sessions and Hermine's motivation to heal, I asked her to mail me a page of her writing.

The capital H in her autograph looked like a maze. There were little loops everywhere, especially in the upper left hand corner where she began the letter. I compared this autograph with the one on her initial consultation agreement and there was a huge difference. The H in the current autograph was significantly loopier.

When I questioned Hermine about this, she said that the sample she had sent me was representative of her usual autograph. She mentioned how much she loves the way the H in her name looks with all the loops.

I asked her if she'd be willing to take on a daily handwriting practice, focusing on the capital H in of The Vimala Alphabet which is simple and dynamic. The only loop is in a "tie stroke" that projects positive energy in one's day-to-day activities. She was less than thrilled but said she'd be willing to try anything if it would help.

We then proceeded with a TAT session.

Because of holidays, our next phone session was two weeks later. I had received a new handwriting sample from Hermine from her now-daily practice and her H's were beautiful. As we caught up, she mentioned that our last TAT session must have been particularly powerful because she had been doing much better since then. The grip of the phobia had loosened and she was less anxious overall.

I pointed out that she had been working on her handwriting since the last TAT session and suggested that it was her new H that had made the difference. The old H had been reflective of Hermine's long-standing subconscious tendency to "tie herself up in knots." The more work we did to loosen those tendencies, the tighter and more plentiful the knots became as the subconscious held on to its old, familiar, "secure" ways.

Hermine's experience was as significant for me as it was for her. It is a perfect example of why the handwriting work is foundational and essential. For more information, check out Vimala Rodgers' websites: http://www.alphabeticalblessings.com/ and http://www.iihs.com/. Sign up for Dr. Rodgers' weekly e-letter. It's free!

Calling All Issues!

There’s a new star in the world of energy health that’s creating a lot of buzz. TAT (The Tapas Acupressure Technique) is a cousin of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). Both fall under the umbrella of energy psychology in that they incorporate acupressure points to help clear physical and emotional blocks and bring about a sense of peace and resolution. But the similarity between the two pretty much ends there.

My attention was drawn to TAT at the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology Conference (ACEP) in June. In every workshop I attended, the facilitator mentioned the value and effectiveness of TAT. So I took an introductory TAT workshop at the conference from TAT creator, Tapas Fleming, an LA acupuncturist. I was hooked. I am now close to completing a basic certification in TAT and have begun using it with clients.

With EFT, the more specific you can be in your language, the better your result will be. For example, those of you who have overcome driving phobias with EFT have experienced the benefit of methodically taking your route step by step and dissolving the fear surrounding each component of it, one at a time. With TAT, the approach is more general (and often more gentle and easier on you) with similar results. I can see why TAT has been called, “a portal of grace.”

Kaiser Permanente Northwest (Oregon) did a study of TAT on weight management, using it in their weight loss clinics. The results were so compelling that Kaiser Northwest applied for and has received a $2.1 million grant from the National Institutes of Health to study TAT in their pain control clinics. The weight loss abstract was published in the November 1, 2007 issue of the JOURNAL OF ALTERNATIVE AND COMPLEMENTARY MEDICINE. If you’re interested in the abstract, I will be happy to email it to you.

I encourage you to check out www.tatlife.com. Download a TAT manual and you try it for yourself. Yes, like EFT, TAT can be completely a self-help process; however, I’ll be blogging about the value of doing these energy therapies with a trained practitioner.

One of the areas that have responded particularly well to TAT is chemical sensitivities and food allergies. I can’t wait to introduce more of you to the TAT experience!