Monday, November 30, 2009

Trust In the Moment

In all the work I've done with the Vimala System of Handwriting, in the teachings of Nara White Owl, in my dabblings with astrology, and all the other esoteric studies sprinkled throughout the past twenty years of my life, the theme of "learning our lessons" is a single, unifying thread.

From what I can see, the lesson these days is TRUST; trust that there is an overall movement toward the good in this Universe. Staying in the moment is a direct path to staying in trust. As has been pointed out again and again across millennia, across philosophical and religious lines, this moment, moment by moment, is really all we have.

The promise of sanctuary lives in this moment. Beyond this moment is the chaos of uncertainty and the fear that brings.

We are at the forefront of a new paradigm. Life has never been like this before. We look ahead and it seems as if all the possible paths are blocked off. The heart starts to hammer and anxiety ratchets up. Anxiety is an excellent fertilizer for worry and as the brain becomes more and more full of worry, creative thought is squeezed out. Our focus narrows down to all the things great and small that are not working in our lives. The spiral that invites us upward in spirit ends up screwing us down into a dark, sticky abyss.

The problem is not a paucity of options, but a limited scope of vision. I’m sure of it.

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Long time no write!

What a time it's been! For my clients, friends and self, the past couple of months have been unusually intense. I have responded by easing up on my commitments, including this blog. Instead, I have allowed myself more mindless pursuits like finishing up the season of "Mad Men" and the latest episode of "The Good Wife." It's been incredibly satisfying to watch certain shows whose turmoil only lasts 44 minutes or so before being neatly and happily resolved.

Last Friday, November 13, my husband and I had just merged onto 101 from 128 on our way back from a much-needed vacation in Mendocino. I still don't know what came over me, but I turned to him and said something like: "It feels as though something significant has shifted. I don't know why or how, but it's huge -- like tectonic plates shifting. I know it sounds really weird, but I feel suddenly as though our world has changed somehow and life will never be the same."

When we arrived home, we heard of three deaths that had taken place over the few days we had been away. One was a 6-year-old girl in Oakland who had been born with cancerous melanomas, one was the cherished 22-year-old son of my Alphabetical Sister, Robin in Rhode Island, and one was a man in his 50's in the San Fernando Valley, the father of one of my kids' friends. All the services had been completed for these dear ones. Since January, I have attended 6 funerals of people who were each precious to me.

There is no doubt that our resilience muscles are being toned. There is no doubt that uncertainty is one of our few certainties. I can only hold fast to the hands of my Guides and Angels and trust them to keep me going in the right direction.

How does hypnotherapy work for weight management?

"Natasha" wrote the following note some weeks after her third session with me. I have made some edits to make reading the message easier but the content is all hers:

Wow, life is great. I lost 9 lbs to date almost effort less since 9/2. I love my husband and his words don't hurt me as often. I also don't put myself in a position of being hurt because now I trust my decisions and don't look for confirmation as much. I say to myself before I go to him, if I don't get the affirmation from him that I am hoping for then 1) is he being an ass? 2) does he have to believe as I do? Usually No. 3) is he capable of the feelings I am hoping for?

Walking through these questions first when I head into an emotional discussion allows me to still love him for who he is and then I can still be who I am. So far this has been very freeing.

I do the same with my best friend who is similar to [my husband].

For eating, I eat a healthy breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I sometimes have a 10am and/or 4pm snack. I only weighed myself three times so far because I am in tune with my emotions and healthy eating. When I eat unhealthy, I am not really enjoying it. Not sure why right now, but I don't need to know.